Applied Happiness Coaching

Many of us feel that our demands are too high – that we’re too picky, and we’ll never find what we’re looking for in love.  I think we’ve got it all wrong when we settle.  Our hearts are often insatiable. We want, and we want, and we want, and we never seem to get enough. Whether it’s love, or lust, or money, or just connectedness – we strive for this level of perfection that very often we believe is unattainable.  This is especially true when it comes to finding the perfect person.  I know many of us have found someone we thought was perfect in every way, but he or she was unattainable – and, of course, is now married.  Don’t let them go just yet. Here’s an idea to wrap your head around. Declare what you want, and accept nothing less.  Use your relationship with that perfect person (you know, the one that got away) as a catalyst to good experience.  Let me explain a little further.

I’m friends with someone that blows my list of perfection away.  She not only meets the criteria; she adds in her own flavor and creates new qualities I didn’t know I wanted until now.  She is smart, gorgeous, independent, athletic, driven, positive, sexual, and armed with a quick wit.  She is unattainable.  Our very friendship is sometimes missing in action because we’re both busy people.  Another friend asked me last night about what I honestly thought would come out of it.  Would we just stay friends? Would we eventually get together and become something more? I discovered at that moment, whilst put on the spot, that it didn’t matter.

The greatest quality my relationship with this person brings, is the experience of knowing, and befriending the unattainable.  I get to experience the sensation of having a relationship – friendship with what I would consider basically perfect. Simply having that basis of feeling allows me to create what I want to feel from other people by manipulating my energy. It’s not about judging others against this ‘perfect person’ as much as it is discovering that he/she does exist, and that you know what it’s like to have them in your life on some level.  From this point forward, you can bring people into your life that are of the same caliber.

The Law of Attraction states very simply, that like attracts like.  The secret to manifesting incredible people is experiencing the sensation of incredible people in your life already. This is why many of us have a gratitude journal to appreciate and recognize the incredible in our lives every day. We make ordinary extraordinary by appreciating and experiencing the greatest qualities of the people around us. That which we like attracts more of itself – more incredible people start coming into the picture.

So the bottom line here is to appreciate and take in all your experiences with gratitude, especially when you are communicating with your unattainable someone. He or she allows you to experience having what you want most, and you can use that energy to bring similar people into your life.  Suddenly the unattainable doesn’t seem some out of reach, does it?