Applied Happiness Coaching

Ever feel like you just can’t catch a break?  As your day wears on, you just get bombarded with one dose of bad news after another?  It truly brings meaning to the phrase ‘when it rains, it pours.’  I am no different from you. We both experience the same days.  Hell, sometimes you come out of a relationship and all you want to do is start fresh, but it seems like it’s just not in the cards.  Welcome to your current train of thought.  Let me explain what I mean.

We’ve all been there.  We’ve all had our hearts broken.  Some of us have even broken some hearts ourselves.  More often than any other subject, the topic of healing a broken heart comes up in advice columns and support groups around the world. When your life changes, and you find yourself single in a world where you once were part of a pair, it can feel like another country – a hostile country too!  The bills can pile up, the weather can turn cold, you can get sick – these are all symptoms of your current train of thought.  This is not you.  This is NOT your life.  You DO NOT exist for this.  This is just your current state of energy. You need to step back and see what your motivating emotions truly are, and weigh them against your goals.

I was recently discussing with a friend of mine the importance of healing yourself for yourself after a break-up.  Too many people try to cling to what once was, and spin their wheels to keep some semblence of their former existence after their proverbial fall from grace.  Actions like these are motivated by fear, and are admittedly a futile attempt to keep up with the status quo.  When all your attempts to stay strong are motivated by fear, you end up experiencing such loss and pain, that your fears manifest.  You have to clear yourself.

 Define yourself better.  You are NOT the broken windshield wiper on your car at the end of a long day of work. You are NOT the ridiculous electric bill this summer.  You are NOT the shell of a person you think you are as you work past a recent break-up.  That may be your current state, but it isn’t you, and your life does no thave to be defined as such.  Realize that you’re much more than that, and write them all down.  Define yourself.

“I know phenomenal things are coming to me, because I radiate awesome.”

“I am an incredibly loving mother.”

“I am so grateful for my amazing family.”

“I am loved so deeply by everyone around me.”

Define yourself differently and get yourself out of the curret state you’re in.  Current is a funny word, ya know. It can mean now, and it can also mean flow. What I want you to do is change the CURRENT of your current.  When you stop flowing the wrong direction, and letting all the negativity and despair propel you further into what you do not want, you’ll see a bigger, brighter, more promising world before you.  Trust me – I have been there, and I have had to embrace the void left in heartbreak.

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