Applied Happiness Coaching

Ugh, what a terrible topic to talk about, but I feel the need to address it.  There are too many women – beautiful and unique women – being whittled down to pint sized versions of their former selves.  Each has carelessly (or carefully – depending how you look at it) been stripped almost bare of all sense of self worth and ambition through abuse.  Most of the abuse is verbal – either slowly ruining self-image through words use, or through ignorance and not using any positive words at all.

Language is an incredibly powerful tool – used to build and/or destroy empires in drastically short amounts of time.  Think about what chemicals are released when he tells you he loves you for the first time.  You feel invincible from that moment on, don’t you?  With each whisper of those three little words, you get higher, and stronger, and more beautiful, right?  Without question.

What happens when someone tells you how worthless you are?  What do you feel every time someone makes you feel guilty for being yourself?  With each angry, hurtful word, you can feel yourself getting smaller inside.  I’ve even heard a parent once say, “You’ll never be anything special to anyone because you’re stupid and you don’t listen!”  Parents can often be the biggest culprit in self-image homicide.

The greatest tragedy to the soul is being convinced you’ll never be loved – being convinced that who you are is all wrong, and there isn’t anyone on the face of the Earth that will appreciate you.  What an absolutely disgusting thought.  What’s worse is through all of it, it becomes a truth in the minds of many people.  The abuse can be so minor, but if consistent, frequent, and unchallenged, it will carve a hole into the soul – a cut so deep it can feel nearly impossible to recover from.

There is good news, however.  There are 324 million people in America, and just over 6.7 BILLION across the globe.  You are beautiful no matter what anyone has ever told you, and you only radiate it more when you shine.  Not only is there someone who does or will appreciate and love you for who you truly are, but there are thousands-millions just like him or her! There’s more good news too.

The human body is an incredible healing machine.  If you smoke for years and suddenly quit, your body begins to repair itself immediately.  Damage is almost never permanent.  The very same goes for language.  When the negative language is removed, the body begins to heal.  This is amplified greatly with the introduction of positive language.  Along with spoken word, the body heals through physical contact.  Think about what chemicals are released when someone you love touches you.  Think about how you feel when she wraps her arms around you and puts her head on your chest.  How do you feel when he runs his fingers through your hair and tells you how wonderful you are?  Pretty invincible, right?  No matter what happened that day, you’re instantly feeling better.

So this is a call to arms.  This is a screaming battle cry to any and everyone who feels like they’re not worth it – that someone has whittled them down to pocket size, and has stripped them (or is trying to) of their right to be happy, healthy, and full of life and love:

You are absolutely worth every last ounce of energy; every passing moment in time – monumental AND meaningless; every fight; every kiss; every sleepless night; every sweet embrace; every sunset and sunrise; every day from now ’til forever.  You are loved infinitely, in more ways than you have time to count.  You deserve nothing less than incredible moments in your life, and never have to settle for them.

Peace, Love, and a million successes to you.  I love you.

If you, or someone you know is in a potentially abusive relationship with a significant other, coworker, parent, sibling, or anyone, please get help.  There are hundreds of support groups and counselors ready and eager to help.  It’s important to understand that you’re never alone – in adoration or abuse.  The link below has a list of different support avenues.

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